14. Man's Dependence on a Source of Love

Due to the error in the spirit of man, that he is "God", he sees himself as a spiritually independent being. It is therefore not easy to explain dependence to a person who considers himself to be independent of a source of love (also in the sense of a source of information). Nevertheless, no one can deny that every process in a person begins with the reception of information. Regardless of how it is received, whether by hearing, sight, smell, taste or touch, the information must go through an evaluation process before it is absorbed. We have already seen an overview of how this works. Now we want to describe this process in more detail.

A little boy in Canada said to his mother after my lecture on the spirit of man, "Mother, do you know that you cannot force my spirit to do the piano exercises now?" Children are fantastic beings. They often understand intuitively the connections very well. He knows his mother can't force him. Why does the boy practice the piano anyway if his mother insists? It is because his spirit is dependent on his mother. A spirit always acts on its own, but never independently. It must satisfy its spiritual needs from a source. Since the boy does this with his mother, he obeys, even if it doesn't really suit him.

Further evidence of the spirit's dependence is the fact that, by reward or threat of punishment, it can be made to do something it would not normally do of its own accord. I often see this in my practice. The child sits there and won't open his mouth, even though the mother begs, "Please, please, open your mouth!" The child usually presses his mouth shut even more firmly. If the mother then promises to buy his favorite ice cream afterwards, the child opens his mouth because his spirit agrees to the reward.

But at some point, a child's spirit can no longer be satisfied with the mother's offers and the promises or threats no longer count. The child then does what he wants without any consideration for the mother.

We have already found out three crucial things about the spirit:

1. A spirit is a closed system and cannot be controlled from the outside. A spirit can be influenced from the outside, but only the spirit determines whether it accepts this influence or not.
2. Only a spirit can control itself, and it does so from within.
3. A spirit is always active, i.e. passivity does not exist in the spirit.

Because the spirit has needs which must be fulfilled, the information offered from outside must meet its needs, i.e. the information must be evaluated as true, if it is to be taken in. The spirit can take in only truth or what it considers to be truth. It must therefore check every piece of information before taking it in.

How and with what does the spirit check whether information is true and meets its needs? Weighing up information requires a yardstick by which the test is carried out. This standard can be objective, i.e. absolute and certain, or it can be subjective and therefore uncertain. In any case, the yardstick used for weighing up information plays a decisive role. We have already looked at the differences between objective and subjective standards in Chapter 2.

If the test shows that the information is true, it is believed. This results in a combination of believing and taking. Since no information arises on its own, the spirit simultaneously trusts the source of the information. In order for a spirit (which is always to be understood as a personal being) to trust, the source from which it takes must also have a spirit. This means that only other people and animals can be considered a spiritual source. Love cannot be obtained from a tree or a chemical element. If you believe the information, then you trust the person. If you listen to an expert on a subject and agree with him, then you trust this expert and believe his information. Whether this is wise in individual cases is another question.

Once information has been absorbed, the rest of the process takes place in a rapid and regulated sequence. The spirit's decision triggers an electrical current in the cerebral cortex, which is directed precisely into the body. The body must react accordingly. Of course, it also has to decide how much and what food to eat, etc. The spirit should fulfill the body's needs. If the spirit does not do this and decides to put the body's needs to one side, the body, and thus the spirit, will die in the foreseeable future.

Only at the exit of the spirit can man fulfill the purpose of his creation. With the right identity, man would be a free being. Although he would remain dependent, he would always be free. But at the entrance of the spirit, in the identity, there is the lie, "I am God". This lie accompanies us throughout our lives if we do not discover and remove it. This lie about ourselves convinces us that we are the source of love. This destroys the bond to the true Source of love, and we can no longer enter into it again. The Basic Law of Nature, which is the law of dependence, fades into the background even if it still applies. We then think that we no longer need any information for our spirit and in this respect, apparently, we live on nothing. This is the great deception into which every human being is born.

However, the life of man clearly proves that he cannot be independent. As a channel, man is always dependent at the entrance. At the exit, however, he is independent. What I do with the love I have received is entirely up to me. I can never do anything wrong out of love. For example, when I have eaten my fill, I am free to decide what I do with the energy I have absorbed. At the same time, I don't have the freedom to eat what I want. If I eat something that can't give me energy, then it's no good. We cannot choose what we need and from what source we have to take it. These are not within the decision or free will of any creature. Our needs are all fixed. Our freedom is to decide what to do with the resources we have taken in to fulfill our needs.

How many things can you do out of love? An infinite number. A human being has many more possibilities than an inanimate computer, which can produce a very diverse output from electricity and its programs. This is because at the output we are free.

The most important realization we must come to is the answer to the question: "Who am I?" Without a choice or accountability, I am in error from birth. I unconsciously believe I am someone I cannot be. We must first become aware of this false identity so that there can be a change and we can get rid of the lie.

I, for one, am tired of believing a lie that only deceives me and makes my life difficult. The real problem is not my fellow human beings nor my environment. There are certainly circumstances that are not right. I can only influence my surroundings if I live in the truth that I am a channel, and I no longer strive for anything for myself. When there is peace in the heart, there is no conflict or destruction. However, this state can never be achieved with laws or measures. The problem with human beings lies within themselves. What would a perfect world look like after just two weeks, if we, in our deceived state, were all suddenly plunged into it?

When I change inwardly and come back to the truth and the Basic Law of Nature, I do good around me. Otherwise, I have to force my family and my fellow human beings to do good, because it is for my "good". Therefore, we must first change something within ourselves. Then we can, without forcing, say what we think and do what is right. This is how we can exert an influence for good. Even if our good influence is not adopted by others, we have at least fulfilled the purpose of our creation.

As described, there are only two identities: creator or creature. The creator is a self-existent and self-contained system. At the same time, the creator is independent and the source of its creation. I like to symbolize the creator with a circle. Every creature, including human beings, is subject to the law of taking in order to give. This makes the creature a channel, an open system and dependent. Which of these was first?¹ Clearly, the creator can only be the cause and the creature can only be the effect.

"Love" has already been used in this book several times as a term for the sum of spiritual needs. How can love be defined? After all, love is the first and foremost need for humans, in order to function. Love is of course something subjective and each person will answer the question of "what is love" differently. At the same time, every person ultimately answers the question of whether they need love in the affirmative. Is there a choice between needing love and needing to be loved? No. Our spirit functions only with love. Love includes all spiritual needs such as freedom, justice, harmony, recognition, security and many more. All these things are an unalterable need for us. This is how we humans are made.

As someone who is particularly in need of harmony, I strive to please everyone. I feel comfortable in an atmosphere where everyone is "nice to each other". But what happens to my need for harmony when things go differently? My parents separated when I was eight years old. A week later, I had hepatitis B, a viral infection. Can you guess what caused it? No one should doubt that the separation of the parents causes harm to their children. But how does a virus get into the liver? Why does something physical happen if there is a problem on a spiritual level? It is because the child is dependent on the love of his parents.

Did I choose to become ill back then? No, I did not choose to be ill but neither could I choose to leave my parents. At this age, I was already thinking about my own family, planning and dreaming of being married. Girls always had my attention. I looked to them for harmony and love. In pursuit of this, I married at a young age. Every man has his own idea of the woman he wants, but these ideas don't always come true.

The fact that we need harmony and justice etc. is not a choice. It is fixed in our spirit. Either we fulfill these needs or we become unhappy and ill. I have found a definition of love based on the body's needs. If there is a "lack of love", the body becomes ill. What does love do in the body? The kind of love I have defined means that the body can no longer become ill. When the spirit takes this love and exercises it, the brain waves cause the body to function properly. For it is not only the need for love that is fixed, but also the effect of the electrical current with which the spirit properly controls the whole body. We see this in the illustration of the piano player who selects the right keys to press to make beautiful music. Man cannot choose what he needs. The choice lies only in the decision as to how man uses what he has previously taken.

So, what is love? My definition combines the two dimensions of interest and freedom. Both have no limit and are therefore infinite. If we put love into practice in this form, then we are free beings who can no longer be harmed by anyone. Love is the solution to all human problems. Love has maximum interest for the other person. Why is interest important for love?

Love must have maximum interest for the other person. Human love is also capable of showing great interest in the other person. However, there is a stark difference between interest in the other and interest for the other. Every mother loves her child. But does she want something from her child or does she want nothing? We know that mothers would lay down their lives for their children because they are attached to them. However, when children do not do what is expected of them, mothers often intervene. The vast majority of my patients say they have, or had, a domineering mother. Mothers are capable of coercing and conditioning children. However no one likes to be forced.

A person can have an immense interest in another person for their own wellbeing. After all, they need them for their love. Consequently, they cannot let go of the other person. Love is really only love when there is interest for the other person and not interest in the other person. This means in giving the other person 100% freedom and 100% respect.

Wouldn't it be nice to live with someone who practices such love, someone who is willing to give their life for me, but gives me the complete freedom to do whatever I want? That would be a perfect relationship. What do you think is harder, showing maximum interest for someone or giving complete freedom? When human love no longer compels and conditions, it tries to be indifferent, to turn away on the outside. Inwardly, however, the desire to dominate the other person usually persists. Real love, on the other hand, does not compel the other person to do the right thing.

Why do people actually have to force other people to do good? Is it really about the safety or wellbeing of the other person or is it actually about their own goal or protection? A rule or regulation is often justified by the individual's responsibility towards the community and love for others. However, the definition of love shows that anyone who uses coercion and force is outside the truth. Real love does not set incentives for any kind of behavior, it does not condition. Conditioning is manipulation.

With my patients, I have consistently found that all their problems and illnesses arise from the fact that they cannot give freedom. In general, people cannot give freedom as soon as things do not develop according to their ideas.

I've been married for over 40 years now and I'm still practicing giving my wife her freedom. If I give others all the freedom, how much freedom do I have myself? Full freedom. If I deny freedom and try to control others, for example, I become ill and get pain.

Love makes us completely free if we exercise it in the right way. You get freedom when you give freedom. That is the condition. If you can't give it, you have no freedom yourself. This is because you are dependent on the person to whom you deny freedom and whom you love. That is why I will always be independent of people whom I love in the right way. On the other hand, if you love in a human way, will you really allow the other person to do something wrong, e.g. waste money? The test of whether love is real love arises in the question of freedom. Where freedom is lacking for the other person, there is dependence on them, because I obviously want something from them. Love with maximum interest and simultaneous freedom for the other person proves this. The one who produces and gives such love must be independent. However, only one person is truly independent, that is God, the Creator.

Because God alone is independent, He makes His love available to every creature without limit. Everyone can be loving, by first taking His love and then passing it on. People are free to decide where they give this love but using it is nevertheless a condition for their own life.

Do you eat voluntarily or are you forced to? I enjoy eating myself and I suspect that the vast majority of people do too. Normally you don't think, "what a shame, I have to eat again". Love is also something that I have to take and put into practice because I am a creature. Love is the element that gives me strength for my whole life. I can find this kind of love only in one place: with God, the Creator.

Whatever our view of God is, there can be only one God, one single source of love. With more than one source, the Basic Law of Nature would no longer be valid. There is only one God, and since He is a spirit, He must be a personal being.

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1. You probably know the popular question: Which came first, the chicken or the egg? This question is not unimportant. The answer can only be: The chicken and the rooster were created by God before the egg. Hens can lay their eggs without a rooster, but they will never produce a chick. The conditions that must be fulfilled for life to reproduce are diverse and not one-dimensional. ↩